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Managing The Stress ~ Making The Decisions ~ Discovering The Meaning |
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Solutions To Your Caregiving Situations Throughout Your Caregiving Years |
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Out of the House Your Answers to Those Tough Questions You’re out of the house, but now you’re out of your comfort zone. The questions will come from those you meet, questions you might find yourself speechless as to how to answer. Some questions you might hear and some suggested answers you might use: 1. “What’s new?” This seems like such an easy question, but in the world of caregiving, the answer is always complex. A few ideas on how to answer: --“We’re all doing well.” (If the questioner is an acquaintance, it might be easier to provide general answers. And, even if you’re not all doing well, sometimes it feels better to say you are.) --“Mom is having a bad week, but I’m doing okay. And, I’m so glad to be here with you today!” (If the questioner is a friend or good friend, this answer works great. You’ve told the truth, but then moved on to your goal: To enjoy your time out of the house.) --“With Alzheimer’s, there’s always something new! This week, the dog is new. But, overall, Frank is doing okay and I’m glad to have some time with you today. I’ve been looking forward to it all week.” --“I’m out of the house—that’s what new! Let’s start the fun!” 2. “What do you do?” (i.e., What’s your career? Are you working?) All too often, society equates one’s worth with a great career. Remember, caregiving is an amazing role. Be sure to share that when you talk about your career. --“My mom needs help these days. So, I’m taking care of her. Because I’m her caregiver, I’m thinking about a new career when I can get back out working. So, right now, I’m taking online classes toward a nursing degree.” --“I’m home with my husband, who has Alzheimer’s disease. Are you working?” (Providing a short answer and then asking a question can help deflect any awkwardness you may feel.) --“I’m raising my family and taking care of my parents. Two full-time jobs! But, I’m still walking and talking, although my friends often ask me how I do it. How about you?” --“I left the corporate world to take care of my parents. It was a tough decision, but one I’m very proud of. How about you?” And, consider that, in social interactions, a good listener is highly valued—there aren’t many good listeners left in the world. If you find yourself without any words, then go ahead and listen. Smile and nod; ask questions when you feel comfortable. And, then, when you find common ground, share something about yourself. Your listener will be in awe at he or she discovers about you. Quick Tips to Getting Out of the House Start Online, Then Hit The Sunshine |
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