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My Uncooperative Care Recipient

Enjoying Your Time Together

It’s drudgery, the caregiving is. For both of you.

   Stepping out of your roles as caregiver and care recipient can be a powerful way to put your relationship back on track. If you constantly remain in your roles as caregiver/care recipient, you lose the benefits of a relationship that you used to enjoy. For instance, maybe you resent having to bathe your mother. Well, she may very well resent having to be bathed.

   Try to set aside time on a regular basis to enjoy just being together, as mother-daughter, husband-wife, father-son. Activities together don't have to be elaborate:

1. Watch a favorite movie with a batch of fresh-popped popcorn.

2. Sit on your front porch on a Saturday afternoon to enjoy the sights and sounds of your neighborhood.

3. Ask your care recipient about the dreams and goals he or she had (and have). Then, share yours.

4. Enjoy a leisurely ride in the car on a Sunday afternoon. Stop for a special treat, such as decadent ice cream creations.

5. Sort through family photograph books, reliving and remembering you and your care recipient's favorite memories.

Daily steps toward a healthier relationship

You want to get along with your care recipient, but sometimes the rigors of caregiving make that difficult. You sometimes feel full of so much anger!

   Pent-up feelings may get in the way of a healthy relationship with your care recipient. Try to make time every day to vent your frustration, anger or guilt. Some appropriate ways to vent include:

1. A daily journal--for your eyes only. So, let it out!

2. A support group. Whether your support group in online or at your place of worship, try to attend and participate as often as you can.

3. A good friend. Everyone needs their own "caregiver"; a good friend will let you express your frustrations in a safe--and confidential--environment.

4. Exercise and activity. A vigorous walk can let the steam out of your engines and invigorate you.

5. Plans for the future. Thinking ahead--of how you want your life to be in six months, one year, five years--will help you keep perspective and propel you to taking steps toward making that future a reality.


Index of Articles

My care recipient won't cooperate!

Enjoying Your Time Together

Managing The Disease Determines Cooperativeness

Letting Yourself Off The Hook

An Extra Pair of Hands May Mean Easier Days

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